The Change: Metaphysically Speaking
When we refer to this time in our lives as “the change”, most of us think about the physiological changes we go through…you know, hormonal roller coaster stuff. However, there is a bigger change going on that we may not all be aware of, that is the metaphysical or spiritual change taking place.
I’ve been on this metaphysical journey, now, since age 48. It looks something like this from age 48 to 55: emptiness, crying every day, realization that I was not happy in my marriage and acting on that, depression, insomnia, filling the void with miscellaneous hobbies, drinking too much, reading, following a nutritious diet plan, getting enough sleep, let go of the past, forgiveness, focusing on what makes me happy, meditation, yoga, reading, reading, being thankful, reading and finally, discovery.
My discovery was learning that finding happiness was easy; it was all around me. Obviously, you don’t need to be heading into menopause to experience this sort of thing, or even be a woman. I’m simply pointing out that many women go through a sort of regrouping during perimenopause and especially post menopause, where they awaken a part of themselves that has been in hibernation since childhood.
What is Metaphysics?
The simple definition of Metaphysics, according to Webster’s, is the part of philosophy that is concerned with the basic causes and nature of things.
Wikipedia takes it just a step further: Metaphysics is a traditional branch of philosophy concerned with explaining the fundamental nature of being and the world that encompasses it, although the term is not easily defined. Traditionally, metaphysics attempts to answer two basic questions in the broadest possible terms:
- Ultimately, what is there?
- What is it like?
- Emptiness – Right before I really realized that I was going through this transition of changing from within, I felt utter and completely alone and empty. I knew something was missing, but couldn’t quite figure out what that was. I just subconsciously knew there was something more.
- Depression – The emptiness led to depression. Knowing something was missing and not knowing what it was or how to find it, triggered a major depression.
- Elimination – I began re-evaluating all my relationships and broke ties with the ones that were toxic. Like, my marriage to a man with undiagnosed mental illness who was also an alcoholic and a 15 yr friendship with a woman that became addicted to meth. I had to let go of both of these relationships because in trying to “save” them, I was destroying myself.
- Let go of the past – By letting go of the things I couldn’t change, I was able to move forward.
- Forgiveness – Once I truly felt forgiveness for others in my heart, I learned to forgive myself.
- Learning – At first, I read books about mental illness (naturally), trying to understand what my husband (ex) was going through. Then, I moved on to self discovery books, like spiritual enlightenment, proper nutrition, holistic medicine, meditation, and yoga.
- Discovery – By discovery, I mean discovering myself and finding happiness in every day life all around me. This couldn’t have happened without meditation and yoga! They changed me forever.
What Can You do
If any of this is resonating with you, take a closer look at your life, yourself, how often you cry or laugh, your diet, how much you exercise…EVERYTHING! I am in no way suggesting you divorce your husband or cut ties with friends. First, evaluate your current circumstances and go from there. Be honest with your evaluation!
Individual or couples counseling
- See your doctor if you feel you need help with depression
- Take time for yourself
- Begin a nutritional journey
- Learn about meditation
- Study yoga
Feel Joy Every Day
From the moment you wake up in the morning until you go to bed at night, bring your attention to the beautiful gifts the universe sends you each day. Whether it be how the sun shines through your window, caught on dancing dust particles in your bedroom; or how your dog looks up at you, lovingly, wanting to please you. Big or small, learn to accept these gifts, embrace and treasure them.
Be Thankful Every Day
Again, each morning as you rise, be thankful for your life, your joyful gifts, friends, family, everything you have. Focus on the things you have, not the things you don’t have. You’ll soon find that you have more than you ever realized.
Put aside the old notion that “the change” is some dreadful disease that all women are cursed with after a certain age. This time of your life is a time to re-evaluate and open up to new things. It’s a time of self (re) discovery and growth, not the beginning of the end that society has taught us for so many years. Happiness begins with you; you will know true happiness when you know and love yourself. You hold the key that unlocks the door to the rest of your life. Use it!
The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life by Deepak Chopra
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